I coach individuals in an academic setting.
I propose you see yourself as I see you.
I have a student who is unclear in his communication. He is a naturally outgoing very intelligent person yet he wants to enlighten people with ideas/concepts/ things that they may not know or understand. To him everyday topics are not interesting so he engages conversation with unusual topics. Most people ignore him or placate him with a nod or ask a polite question.
But if you ask him to define it and explain it he’s patient. He explains all the details. He understands that he comes up with things people don’t understand yet he is driven from within to inform people about interesting things. You can see it in his eyes that he wants to engage and doesn’t get frustrated.
Also he’s made an acquaintance and he’s very protective of this person. The individual doesn’t engage with other people very easily . You can see his compassion and understanding for this person and he shows support for them. These are huge strength personal strengths and a gifts. They show his character and personality traits being used with a positive application in his life with others. He needs to focus on these and develop and enhance them. He is problem solving the obstacles that are getting in his way of becoming a person of excellence.
Each person has strengths in character and gifts that make them an individual rather than a part of the crowd. It is how they perceive them, then how they treat/behave makes them negative or positive character traits and a strength or weakness. It’s all in how you think about it then apply those thoughts in your life. I strive to define my students and clients in a positive way. I also strive that they learn how to define themselves in this way by their strengths and the positive application of their character traits/gifts to be the best version of themselves.
Meanwhile they also see where they need to grow, mature and develop. They can compensate and delegate areas of challenge. They are not letting areas of challenge keep them from realizing their potential as a person.
When one sees areas in need of work and weakness, solely focusing on them because they think that they are not okay. If this is you, if you’re focusing only on your weaknesses! Stop it!
And not everything will be worked out to the best functioning levels and efficiency at once. You need to be patient with yourself and be kind, all the while never giving up.
You are not changing yourself to be something acceptable. You are adding to yourself to be a person of excellence then you problem solve your difficulties as obstacles and mainly focus on developing and enhancing your strengths.
Please see yourself as I see you.
Most of this information is not new, but the great news is you don’t have to do this on your own and with your own strength.
This is how God sees you in your strength, if you ask Him to partner with you. He will back you up because of the sacrifice of Christ as our representative. His presence in us by His Holy Spirit brings out our strengths and gifts meanwhile He works with us in a loving and patient way to lessen the impact of our challenges and weaknesses. He becomes our strength. My coaching is only temporary and limited. His is 24 /7 and limitless.
21 And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
Amplified Bible (AMP)
He is motivated by his love for you.
He has a great plan!