Beauty, a Gift and Responsibility…but Sometimes Awkward….

  Who would consider an attractive person an outlier. Many people who don’t feel attractive think only if I was attractive life would fall into place. It does have it’s advantages but all the attention comes with a great number of different responses which are not all good  so even good gifts come with complications. Attractive people stand out and sometimes people stand back and gawk at them without interacting with them. One would think it is complimentary but many times it is creepy and not everyone has good intentions. There are those who know how to handle the attention, instinctively or they have been taught. This is not always the case and it can create situations with a lot of trauma and drama.


But there is a plan why you have been given the gift of beauty and it is good to have someone watch over you that has your best interest at heart.

This subject reminds me of Esther in the Bible in the Book of Esther who was an orphan and very beautiful. God had a very special plan for her life and it started with her standing out because of her beauty. She did what she needed to do but initially it was not what she wanted her life.  As you read her story you see a resistive woman who had other ideas but as things unfolded around her, she was called into action which required faith and risk taking. Her character and faith in God created a life of purpose for her not just her looks. Her beauty was a piece of the puzzle God used, without it she would not have been able to be instrumental in an important event in history. Being attractive is a gift that can be used to help others and bring attention to situations that others need to be aware of. As you do use it to help others that is where the joy and fulfillment come from not from being attractive. But caution and wisdom should be used because some people take advantage of those who are beautiful, they are used like a commodity rather than a person to promote causes.

Also as you age beauty changes into other forms other than youthful beauty; you still attract others and it beautifulgives one favor with them. But realizing the use of the attention and favor is the important factor not the beauty; otherwise the grief and sorrow from the loss of youthful beauty can prove to be devastating to someone. Especially, if they believe their attractiveness is all they have to make them of value. We are more than a label of beautiful. God will transition you through the stages of life. He will never leave or forsake you.

 Hebrews 13:5 

Let your character or moral disposition be free from love of money [including greed, avarice, lust, and craving for earthly possessions] and be satisfied with your present [circumstances and with what you have]; for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]
When you have joined your life with Christ and you are a member of the Kingdom of God, He knows why He created you exactly the way He did. As you spend time with Him, He will give you a head’s up on how to handle the gift and responsibility of being attractive. And if you do feel awkward, He will coach you through it, so you won’t have to try to hide it with weight or a distasteful attitude which many use trying to protect themselves from those who want to take advantage of them or the fear of that possibility.
I was a nondescript chubby child but during middle school one of the things I wanted most happened. One of my childhood classmates wrote in my yearbook-To the ugly duckling who turned into a swan, But it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. I was not prepared for the attention I did get because it was from all sources desirable and undesirable. I wasn’t able to discern how to use this gift and no one in my family was inclined to mentor me in handling this new found gift. So over a period of time I learned with God’s help how to manage it. I am still learning. I know from discussions with other women I am not alone.
I know now that every gift is given with a purpose and  in time and with seeking God, He will unfold the plan. The trick is for us not jump the gun when things don’t happen fast enough because when I have jumped the gun and used my own reasoning things got very complicated, but when I waited on God and asked for wisdom and discernment, He liberally gave it.
If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God [Who gives] to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him. (AMP)
Then things work out, even the ones that appear to not be for my good- see Roman 8:28!
So we can rely and trust in God to help us to handle the gifts we are given, even when they are the greatest; they will require wisdom because even the good ones can make life very confusing and complicated!









Mary Ellen Wessels – Beauty