This is a great gift to have questions of injustice and many others things that come up for which there is no direction or standard in place which is most common in learning to live as a person who doesn’t fit in the proverbial box.
This is good wisdom because when we are anger or in a heightened state of emotion most of us lose our ability to make well thought out decisions and it is giving a foothold of the enemy of our souls to derail our actions and purpose. God can arrange and do a greater work in correcting injustices than I can. And He wants to as we allow Him to do so. This requires us trusting Him, relying on Him and His unconditional love for us as His Children. This is well documented in The Bible that is His intention.
I know I will be lead by Him to act as an advocate, expecting people to comply with the laws governing the treatment of those with disabilities but when they don’t and I have done all I have been lead to do, I must give it to Him to intervene, believing He has heard me and He is acting as an advocate now to provide all that is needed for that situation.
And as the beloved of God, He intended us to be healthy and for another reason to not be angry, it can cause unhealthy conditions in our lives. While researching on anger I ran across an therapist who specializes in dealing with anger she has written and posted many resources to do so one such article by Michelle Farris, LMFT*, talks about different signs of anger and the affects that has on a person’s life. Here is a portion of her article from a free 5 day course on anger that you can find on her website. These jumped out to me because I find them often in the lives of outliers including mine.
Physical Signs of Anger:
- Muscle tension
- Increased heart rate
- Sweaty palms or perspiration
- Clenched jaw and tightening in the throat
- Dry mouth
- Stomach or headache
- *flight or fight reaction- much like anxiety ( my addition to her list from another of her articles. I find this VERY common as a reaction and I am interested to explore how much of this reaction is anger or anxiety as a secondary conditions caused by circumstances brought on by having a disability or being an outlier/ atypical. )
Emotional Signs of Anger:
- Confusion or feeling numb
- Negative thinking
- Assuming the worst
Behavioral Signs of Anger:
- Compulsive behaviors like drinking, overeating, smoking
- Threatening gestures
- Silent treatment
- Slamming doors
- Breaking cell phones
- Negative thinking
Now I have to be honest- I am still working through this because I will need God’s Strength and help to transform how I approach life without anger. I have decided peace in my life has become more important than most other things I have sought after.
Read on in my next blog how God strengthens me and guides me to a new approach to life without unhealthy anger….